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The Purpose.
Friday 20th MarI never thought I’d be writing something like this.
A few weeks ago, everything felt different. Me and my partner were preparing for a future we were so excited about. We were talking about becoming parents, imagining what life would look like, and stepping into something that felt bigger than anything we’d known before.
And then, suddenly, it was gone.
We experienced a miscarriage, and it’s something that’s hard to put into words. One moment you’re planning a life, and the next you’re trying to understand how that life disappeared. It leaves you with a kind of emptiness that’s difficult to explain unless you’ve been through it.
As a man, I’ve found it especially hard to process. I’ve wanted to stay strong for my partner, to be there for her in every way I can, but at the same time I’ve been dealing with my own thoughts, my own questions, and my own sense of loss. You go from being a “dad-to-be” to not knowing what you are anymore, and that shift hits deeper than I ever expected.
There’s no clear way to grieve. Some days feel quiet. Some feel heavy. And sometimes, you just try to distract yourself because sitting with it is too much.
But through all of this, one thing has become clear to me: no one should have to go through this alone.
That’s why I’ve decided to take on a challenge this April — I’ll be running 45 kilometres to raise money for Sands, a charity that supports families affected by baby loss.
This isn’t about being a runner. It’s not about times or distances. It’s about having something to focus on, something to channel everything I’m feeling into, and hopefully turning something painful into something that can help others.
Every kilometre I run will mean something. It’s for the baby we lost. It’s for my partner. And it’s for every family who has had to experience this kind of heartbreak.
If you’ve been through something similar, you’ll know how important support is — whether that’s emotional, practical, or just knowing someone understands.
If you’re able to donate, it would mean a lot. And if not, even just sharing this or taking a moment to read it is appreciated more than you know.
This is something that’s now very close to my heart.
And while I can’t change what’s happened, I can try to do something that might make a difference for someone else going through it.
Thank you for your support.
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