TJ Harris

In loving memory of Amelie Tina Fox-Harris

After five years together, we were excited to grow our family and make Primrose the best big sister. Since Laura had carried Primrose, TJ wanted to experience pregnancy this time. We felt incredibly fortunate that our IVF journey was successful on the first attempt. When we found out we were adding another girl to our girl gang, it all began to feel very real—and incredibly exciting. We had already chosen her name, Amelie, and her nursery was ready. Despite a challenging pregnancy marked by sickness, we were low-risk and everything seemed to be progressing well. Amelie was growing perfectly, with no concerns.

Sadly, 3 days before our due date, we experienced reduced movements. We immediately attended the hospital, and our worse fears were confirmed. There was no heartbeat. Amelie arrived via elective caesarean and was perfect. A healthy 7lb 30z. Later, we learned through testing that there had been an issue with the placenta known as Delayed Villous Maturation (DVM). Sadly, there are no symptoms or standard tests for DVM; typically identified through growth scans, which we had no indication to undergo. We know that more research is needed into DVM and charities are working to research this area.

Our incredible bereavement midwife introduced us to a range of support resources, including Sands. We’ve found great comfort in their work—whether through something as simple as TV trigger warnings or reading the stories of other families. We've also come to understand that many stillbirths are preventable, and the research and advocacy that Sands supports is vital. Fundraising and taking on new challenges for Sands has given us purpose and focus during this incredibly difficult time. One such challenge was the Snowdon Midnight Hike, which was both emotional and deeply fulfilling. It gave us a space to connect with others, share our story, and speak Amelie’s name.

This will be the first challenge Primrose will be taking part in so will be extra special x