I’m taking part in Sands Ribbon Run
I’ve committed to taking part in Sands Ribbon Run which takes place during Baby Loss Awareness Week (9-15 October) for every much-loved baby sadly not here today.
Sands ensure that everyone affected by the loss of a baby gets the support they need and deserve when facing the toughest of times. They campaign for change, provide training for midwives and healthcare professionals, and support research so that fewer babies die and so that less families experience the tragedy of losing their baby. Anything you are able to donate means so much.
Thank you.
£10 - could provide a hand and footprint kit to help create memories.
£20 - could provide a bereaved family with a memory box to help create and keep safe precious and lasting memories of their baby.
£35 - could answer a call from someone reaching out for support who has been through pregnancy loss or the death of a baby.
£100 - could help ensure every hospital in the UK has a dedicated Sands volunteer to help healthcare professionals access our training, guidance and support.
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Friday 17th Octwalking 15K in honour of Baby Loss Awareness Week. We’ve chosen to walk alone (well with my trusted pal soph
and percy 🐾), rather than with the wider SANDS group, because I’m very aware of just how lucky I am to be walking with my baby in my arms. For many, that’s not the case.
But I couldn’t let this week pass without marking it. The journey to get here has been long, heartbreaking and traumatic and today’s walk is a way to honour that, and to acknowledge the babies we lost along the way. I’m sharing our story not for sympathy, but because during our hardest times, I found real comfort in hearing the stories of others. I hope this might do the same for someone else.
Our path to parenthood wasn’t straightforward.
We went through seven gruelling rounds of failed fertility treatment before welcoming our second daughter, our miracle girl matilda 11 weeks ago. Each one demanded so much time, emotion, energy and hope. There were rounds where we got no embryos at all, or just one or two that didn’t survive past day 5. Each failed cycle brought a fresh wave of grief, grief for something that never even had the chance to begin. And then, finally, we had a five-star embryo, the one that should have worked. But it didn’t.
Other pregnancies lasted longer, but still ended in heartbreak. Those scans that any parent dreads, the ones with only silence. The waiting, holding on to hope, only to have your worst fears confirmed.
Then it happened again. Another pregnancy. Another scan. The same silence.
After that, the fear of whether it would ever happen for us crept in. Should we just be grateful we already have one child? Were we selfish to want more?
But with every loss, the ache grew stronger. Not out of selfishness — but out of love. Love for the baby we longed for, and for a sibling for our daughter.
Then came another pregnancy. But this time, we were told our baby had a severe brain defect, and wouldn’t survive the birth. We were given a “choice” to continue the pregnancy knowing the outcome, or end it early. What many don’t realise is that even in that situation, you still have to give birth. You still go through labour. You still have to walk into maternity, past the pregnant mothers and families leaving with their newborns. For me, I became very unwell, and had to be rushed to theatre after delivery. It was traumatic, physically and emotionally.
And this is just my side of the story. My partner also lost his baby. He also grieved. And in those terrifying hours, he thought he was going to lose me too. The trauma of that moment stays with both of us.
Not long after that, we almost lost our three-year-old precious daughter. She became critically ill and was later diagnosed with a neurological disorder. Thankfully, she’s stable now, and we are in a much better place as a family.
So we know loss. We know trauma. And most of all, we know how lucky we are now.
Along the way, we’ve been supported by multiple charities - through fertility treatment, baby loss, and now through organisations supporting children with long-term conditions. What these charities do in people’s darkest hours is beyond words, and we are so grateful.
If you can, please donate. Even the smallest amount could help another family feel just a little less alone.
Thank you so much for reading, and for remembering all the babies who are still loved, still missed, and never forgotten. 💗
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Robert Bedford
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Pops And Mummy Pops
Well done Becs and Sophie…that’s quite a distance! Amazing! (You kept that one quiet?!)
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Carol And Gerry Crawley
Well done Rebecca, great achievement, we are so proud of you and Steve and full of love and admiration for you both. Xxx
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Iona And James
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Tobias Phelan
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Maria Doswell
Such a beautiful thing to do. Good luck . ❤️
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Tara Chapman
Love from Tara & Ed chapman x
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Max & Beth
Well done Becs and Sophie 🫶🏼 such a great cause xxx
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Michelle Martin
You are amazing Bex, you have shown strength beyond measure and you and Steve have been to hell back. I’m so pleased for you both having your beautiful girls. You’ve got this darling!
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Amy Holt
Amazing, well done xxx
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Isabel Jubb
Well done for your fundraising supporting such an important cause.
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Caroline Drake
You are an inspiration. A wonderful charity for the worst experience. Thank you for doing this xxx
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Maxine Fernandez
With love to the strongest woman and beautiful family….xx
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Estella Mbako
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Jac Sadovskii
Well done Rebecca great cause Eugenia Jac and family
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Natasha Leuchter
You are amazing Rebecca :-) A brilliant cause xxxxx
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Jo Killeen
Forever proud of your strength . xx
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Beth Jolly
Good luck Rebecca, a wonderful cause!
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Sarah Williams
Well done! Such an amazing and essential charity. ❤️ xxx
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Maria Digby
Love and support to you all Bex what a wonderful charity x ❤️
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Linda Ikwue
Well done Beck! Love you ❤️
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Jem
Raising money for a great cause 💪🏻
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Claire Kerner
Such a worthy cause Becs. Even after your stressful journey to get your happy ending, you are still thinking of others. You are a very special young lady. Lots of love Claire and Steve Luv u xxx
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Megan Macdonald
An amazing thing to do for such an important cause. Good luck x
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Rebecca Scott
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Rebecca Scott
Good luck, Rebecca proud of you, hope it all goes okay x
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Sammy Bell
Well done ❤️
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Jan Buckingham
You are an inspiration Becs. Go girl - you are raising money for a fabulous cause. 💖
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Annie And Elliot
We love you so much. Behind you every step of the way.
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April
Amazing work lovely x
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Sophie
Loved being there by your side to support you and so many others. The off roading with the pram added some entertainment too!!
Great work for a great cause, keep it up.