Darel Tidman-Poole

However, most won’t know that for a time, my recent twin pregnancy was actually a triplet pregnancy. At around 12 weeks we were diagnosed with a TRAP identical twin (in addition to the 2 viable babies) - a complication that happens in about 1% of identical twins pregnancies. It was found early and Mother Nature intervened to ensure I didn’t require any dangerous medical procedures and we felt immense relief that our other 2 babies were fit and well. This remained the focus of the pregnancy; deliver 2 beautiful, healthy babies. As we now pass the 9 month stage of having the twins in our lives, my head has gone to that of the triplet, who unfortunately was never viable, but who was part of me and more importantly - part of the twins, in their early stage of  their development - one of them even supporting the cardiac function of them both! 

I feel fortunate that our loss was when it was, and we could channel the emotions into the remainder of the pregnancy.  I can’t imagine the pain and grief of loosing a child at any point; a loss is a loss and I am with all the parents who have gone through this horrible experience and have come out the other side.