Charlotte Avery

Lance was born on February 10th 2015 and died on February 13th 2015 3 days later.

The cause is unknown therefore it’s labelled something called SUENDS.

It stands for sudden early unexpected neonatal death syndrome.

From the very first moment I saw Lance, my heart was filled with pride and joy.
Lance was a lovely little baby with such a beautiful face he had chubby cheeks and puffy eyes which once opened were the deepest colour of blue, his ears were tiny like his little fingers and toes. 

His nose so cute, his arms and legs so strong, with lips so soft, a chin so small and hair so plenty and blonde. He was perfect.
Although Karl couldn't be with us as much as we would have liked.
When he was present he did the best he possibly could.
Lance and Karl had a special bond, you could see it when Karl held him in his arms for the first time.
In that moment, life was perfect.
The day Lance died he had fallen asleep all cosy next to me where he loved to be, It’s such a shame he couldn't stay longer but 3 days or 10 months is all he could manage.
Words can't explain how sorrow has taken over me since he passed away.
Physically and Emotionally, I have met a pain I could never have imagined and I have cried so many times.
Though he is no longer with us Lance has made me a better person he changed my mentality and how I perceive things to be.
Lance showed me an independent love of dependency I barely took my eyes off him for his whole physical life.
I was so proud and happy to have him, Lance came to teach us the abundance of love, our memories of Lance will live on forever in our heart and souls, Lance’s life mattered.
For Lance, the journey is beginning, but for us there is loss, grief and pain although Lance left us with conflicting emotions he will always be remembered for the positive ones.

It is now 2024 its been nearly 10 years, we have since had 2 more children both of which are boys who have brought is so much joy, the pain from losing Lance is still just as raw and will never go away,

I’m taking part in Sands Ribbon Run this Baby Loss Awareness Week 9-15 October.

Support me as I take on 15km in support of Sands, helping them to continue to build a world where more babies survive and more families receive the happy ending they deserve.

Ribbon Run is a sponsored run, walk or jog where thousands of people come together to remember their babies and raise funds for Sands. It’s free to sign up and it’s up to you how you take part. You can run it, walk it, push it, or jog it; alone or with friends and family.

By sponsoring me, you are helping Sands break the silence around baby loss and to continue to save babies’ lives.

£3 - could provide a Sands birth certificate for a baby whose birth cannot be registered through a register office.

£10 - could provide a hand and footprint kit to help create memories.

£20 - could provide a bereaved family with a memory box to help create and keep safe precious and lasting memories of their baby.

£35 - could answer a call from someone reaching out for support who has been through pregnancy loss or the death of a baby.

£100 - could help ensure every hospital in the UK has a dedicated Sands volunteer to help healthcare professionals access our training, guidance and support.

I am supporting this charity because  those whom have been through the heartbreaking experience of losing their young ones need all the support they can get and that is what this charity does for these unfortunate families 
SANDS, myself and every family who have every had to feel this kind of hurt appreciate any support you can give.